Posts Tagged ‘ women ’

Salutation Rights – Mr and Mrs (not!)

Untitled-1Last month I had to give up my contact details to download some CAD details from a product website (nothing is free in this world, right?). I usually don’t mind as the information I put down is my work email, but I got stuck right at the start of the process when the only salutation options open to me were “Mr” or “Mrs”. It is important to note this is not the website for a small company based in a warehouse off the M1. The site belongs to a renowned international cladding company who have delivered high profile projects all around the globe.  Over the years I have become accustomed to receiving emails and letters addressed to Mr Kenechi (imagine their shock when they ring and I pick up).  To be fair to them, I can almost understand their inclination to write “Mr” when they have no idea what gender this Kenechi person might be, but the fact of the matter is that a salutation is not necessary. If you don’t know someone’s gender but you know their name, doesn’t it make sense to just write their name?

Anyway, back to the offending website. I don’t understand how a company can justify leaving no other salutation options for the wide range of people who visit their site. I know the construction industry is still very male dominated and is only now catching up on realising single women can be proper member of the building workforce, not stuck at home waiting to get married before we can emerge into society, but this is a little ridiculous. The whole reason “Ms” was re-introduced to the English language in the 20th century (according to the ever-trusty people at Wikipedia) was so that people wouldn’t find themselves in said uncomfortable situation. I thought about writing to them to inform them of their “error” (because it has to be one, surely) but I don’t have the energy to follow it up. Shame on me…but I really don’t. I ended up selecting “Mr” on the website, just for fun. I’m waiting for the awkward silence when their follow up phone call comes…

In a slightly related incident, one almost as inappropriate as not being given the option to identify myself as “Miss” Continue reading


My T-shirt is better than yours

On my way to work last week, I noticed two men walking slightly ahead on the other side of the road. Both of them were dressed in identical brown leather jackets with thick fur-lined collars, same shade of tan trousers and dark brown shoes. I didn’t think much of this – men wear matching outfits all the time – until one  of the men stopped the other and pointed out the situation to him. They both laughed and carried on their separate ways. No high drama.

I don’t mean to be sexist but I couldn’t help thinking that if they had been women, one of them (probably the first to notice the offending outfit) would have gasped in horror and cowered in shame as she slowed down her pace and waited for the other to leave the scene. How dare someone else have similar taste in clothing as you and have the cheek to wear the same outfit on the same day and in the same room with you? Continue reading